Courage Factor

Courage Doesn't Mean You're Not Scared. It Means You're Scared To Death But You Do It Anyway!

Angry? No, not me

anger

Do you ever???

  • Make light of real issues going on in your life?
  • Have people tell you that your humor is very sarcastic?
  • Find yourself in an argument and feel like you can’t contain yourself?  Like you’re going to explode?
  • Make people laugh?  Are the life of the party but inside you feel like running away?
  • Have people compliment how great your life is but you really hate it?
  • Let days, weeks or months pass by before you tell someone they upset you?
  • Find yourself being extremely judgmental?

These are some examples of what suppressed anger feels or looks like.  None of them mean that you have anger problems.  But a combination of them should bring to your awareness the fact that you ARE angry.

These also are the very same feelings someone may feel when they’re depressed.  Well, let me let you in on something.  Suppressed anger leads to depression.

Listen, don’t hold your anger in.  Manage it properly with daily exercise, by doing things that make you happy, by leaving the scene when you find yourself feeling out of control, and by just refusing to engage with that other person.

I know this is easier said than done, but seriously, no one else is responsible for what you do or what you feel.  Ouch.  I know.  You can’t control what someone else is going to do.  You can only control how you react to it.  So take control of your life.  Sometimes that may mean getting rid of that particular friendship or relationship.

I always say, “You only get one stab at this thing called life.  Man, enjoy it.”  What’s the point of living unhappy day in and day out?  Live your life.  Don’t let someone else dictate how you feel.  Be  happy.

FREE

free1I want to thank you guys for emailing me or leaving a comment about your goals for the next 100 days.  I have some FREE sites that are real GOOD for journaling your food and workouts and they have suggested meal plans, which could be invaluable when starting your journey to a healthier you.  Sometimes you don’t know where to start.   So here are some!

Remember, these sites are FREE!  :)

If you want to win money just for logging in your workouts, go to WOWY now and create a profile!  Click on “Free Membership” at the bottom of the page.  You don’t have to buy anything.  All you have to do is log in and track your workouts!  That’s it!  Win $300 to $1,000 and Ipods, Camcorders and other gifts EVERY DAY!  Just for working out.  Love it!  You can also enter your transformation story for a chance at $250,000 at the end of the year.  Pretty cool, huh?

Click here for a cool site that tracks your calories, carbs, fats, you name it.  At the end of the day, it tells you… “If all your days end like this you will weigh ____ pounds by ____ date.”  It adds that extra motivation to stay on track.

This other site will give you a meal plan, journals for food and exercise and other tools.  I really like this one.

I’m sure you’ve heard of this one.  This one is very interactive with reminders and meal plans.  It has journals for food and exercise and a HUGE online community that you can chat with and learn from.  There are challenges and all sorts of neat stuff on this site.

Lastly, I recommed this one.  I found this one about 2 years ago and I thought it was pretty cool.  It’s very similar to sparkpeople but not as interactive.  Yet, a very good site!

Let me know what else you need!  If I don’t have it, I will find it!  :)

Now, lets finish the year out strong!

Don't do it!

100 Days Logo

There are 100 days left until the end of the year.  What goals did you have on January 1st that fell by the way side?  I propose a 100 day challenge.  Truthfully speaking…  Have you ever done anything “positive” for 100 days straight?  Seriously.  We all know what we’ve done for the past 265 days.

I challenge you to take some time this weekend and WRITE down goals in all areas of your life.  These include health, wealth, happiness, spiritual, etc… Don’t do it…  But don’t complain anymore either.

Write these goals down by Sunday, October 4th.  If you’re bold and want some accountability, post your goals as a comment to this blog. Don’t do it…  But don’t be mad when the rest of us achieve ours.

I will be blogging about how to achieve goals once a week.  You don’t need to do any of the exercises…  But if you want change.  If you want to achieve those goals.  If you want to challenge yourself…  I encourage you to do the exercises and I encourage you to post about it here, as you move forward for the next 100 days.  A lot can happen in 100 days.  Don’t do it…  And nothing will change.

I’ll be the first to post that my biggest goal is to be consistent in my workouts.  I feel better and my stress level is almost non existent when I consistently workout, yet I don’t make the time for it.   My second goal is to finish paying off my debt.  I’m almost there!  YES!!!  My third goal is to be consistent in my blogging.   I will come up with some more and add them to this blog by Sunday.

Come on.  You too.  Be accountable.  Let’s hold each other accountable.  Shock yourself 100 days from now.  Don’t do it…  But no pity parties allowed.

Don’t do it!  I DARE YOU!!!!

The new way to socialize

cs-social-mediaEvery time I share with someone my passion for building my brand through social media, I’m met with comments such as, “But why do I want a Twitter account?  I don’t want to know what people are doing every minute of the day.”  Or, “I don’t need Facebook.  I don’t need to connect with people I don’t remember from high school.”

Let me explain.  If you have a business and you’re not using these medium to reach your audience then YOU ARE MISSING THE BOAT.  How awesome would it be for Starbuck’s or McDonald’s to create a video, post it on their site and in this video ask the consumers what they want?  Instead of spending millions of dollars on advertising, spend $0 and post a video on Youtube then post tweets about it with a link to the video. Put in on their Faccebook fanpage.  Connect that page to their website or blog.  The possibilities are endless and flat out amazing!  Then when they get feedback from the customers they can create a product they know will sell because the consumers helped to create  it.  The consumers want it!

The truth is whether you’re a company or an individual…  You’re on Twitter, Facebook, Myspace, Digg, etc…  And you’re saying, “Hey!  Look at me!  I’m over here!”  That’s not a bad thing.  However, if you have a passion for a topic or a business, you BETTER be saying…  “Hey look at me!  I’m over here!”

Pretty soon people will check you out.  They will “re-tweet”, re-post on Facebook or send your link via email to their friends.  THAT is more powerful than any commercial during Super Bowl Sunday.  The power of ONE person looking at your brand…  PRICELESS.  That one person has so much power at the click of that mouse!

And that is how Twitter and Facebook and the rest of the social media platforms out there, work for you.

Cut the crap!

crap

Someone asked me what I meant when I said that people that have no regrets haven’t learned anything.  So, let me explain.

I didn’t mean that you should stay stuck in your regrets.  Because regrets are in the past.  What can we do about the past?  Not much.  But what you CAN do is LEARN from it.

I’ve always said that the bad thing about experience is that it always comes after the lesson.  Not the other way around.  So regrets should motivate you to do things differently.  Not to keep doing the same thing over and over again.  That’s what I mean when I say the people that say, “I have no regrets”…  Haven’t learned anything.  You should have regrets.  If you don’t then you’ll just keep doing the same things over and over again.  And sadly, the people that do the same thing over and again keep themselves in victim mode.

“She never wants to listen to my problems it’s always about her.  He used me.  She lied again.  All he cares about is himself.  She did it again.”   These are all victim phrases.

And I have to share this one thing with you.  I TOTALLY know what it feels like to be “the victim” but I also realize that I sooooooo kept myself there.

However, sooner or later YOU’VE GOT TO CUT THAT CRAP OUT!  You’ve got to develop your courage factor.

Regrets?  Of course we all have them.  Just don’t let your regrets stop you.  Use your regrets to move you forward as you learn from your past!