Recently, I was asked how do I handle a crisis. This was a very interesting question because it had never been posed to me, yet I knew exactly how I handle a crisis since I had just lived through one. I answered right away and I wanted to share with you some positive things about a crisis.
Positive? Yes, positive.
The first positive thing I can think of is that a crisis situation doesn’t sneak up on you after weeks of being in it. You don’t one day wake up and say, “You know what? I think I’m in a crisis”. Crisis are very easy to detect. They happen and they immeditely rock your foundation. They knock your equilibrium off. For example, you’re driving home and upon turning into your subdivision you see black smoke in the sky. You realize there’s a fire somewhere until you pull up close to your drive way and you realize it’s your house. THAT is a crisis. You determine that your family is safe and you go into planning how to get through the crisis with your spouse or the insurance company or whoever your support group is.
The second positive thing I can think about a crisis is that they don’t last long. Thank God for that. We (humans) certainly couldn’t function in crisis mode for too long before shutting down.
Can a crisis be shocking? Yes. Can it cripple you? Yes. This is why it’s important to debrief with your EAP or family therapist or primary care physician and continue to talk about it until it makes sense to you and you can compartmentalize it correctly within your emotional file cabinet.
Often what some call a crisis is a very big problem but far from a crisis. Still, it deserves attention so you can function properly. Anxiety, panic attacks, insomnia and irritability are signs that you should seek help. How you react to situations in your life is very important. Your reactions/decisions will either have positive consequences or negative ones. Especially, the decisions you make while in “crisis mode”.