1. My dad- My dad was constantly telling me how to be a “decent” person. He always talked about what to look for in a man. Although, he was a Christian man and he preached, when I was 21, he realized I was going to go out with my friends and party and do things that 21 year olds do. He always coached me to never pick up a drink after walking away from it. Never ride anywhere with anyone, always drive my own car. Never ride with anyone who had even 1 sip of alcohol (you don’t know how much they already had). You don’t find a husband at a “club”. LOL Sure didn’t. And always pay back money you borrow. I also saw him ALWAYS being affectionate to my mom. He never forgot a special occasion, birthday, Mother’s Day, Valentine’s, Christmas, etc… Every day, there was a different lesson to be learned. My father was self employed and worked until 22 days before he died. He taught me to be loyal to family and instilled very STRONG life values in me.
2. My mom- Although I didn’t meet most of my dad’s children that he had before he met my mom… When I did meet them, my mom was very accepting of them. She had no reason to dislike them so I didn’t grow up seeing “baby momma hate” or “drama” from my mom at least. My dad had plenty of baby momma drama before he met my mom. I remember how my mom put an end to that. She was always very confident and she enjoyed representing my dad in all aspects of life. For church, they dressed to the nines. And in life, my mom encouraged my dad to have his own business. This was scary for my dad as he spoke English with an accent and didn’t know if he would succeed. Well, he did and she was a major part of that. From her I’ve learned much about being a woman and a wife. I’ve also learned other life lessons that I may discuss later.
3. My oldest son- I had him when I was very young. I had no clue what kind of mom I would be. But as soon as he was born, an instinctual mom came out of me. I never left him at home to go do anything. I took him everywhere. If I drove to Miami, he was strapped in his car seat. If I was invited to a birthday party or a wedding, I’d always ask if I could bring him. If I couldn’t bring him, I’d kindly turn down the invitation. I always put him first. I learned to be a mom with that guy. I also learned the kind of mom not to be. I was very strict with him. In my attempt to be the best mom and raise the best kid possible I didn’t cut him much slack. Today, I still catch myself being too stern with the others. (wink).
4. My middle son- When he was in the 1st grade he exhibited all the signs of ADHD. I was ignorant to what ADHD was so when the school told me to get him tested, the 1st thing I did was go talk to therapist about it. I didn’t take my son, this appointment was just for me. I made an appointment to go see this therapist so I could learn about ADHD and learn how to best help our son. That therapist said something that sparked the idea that maybe I could go to college and learn not just about ADHD but my own behaviors, as well. For the love of my son and becoming the best parent I could, I went back to college a couple of years later. I’m still in college now, working on my masters and without my son I would probably still not have a post secondary education. He was and is still the catalyst for making that happen.
5. My daughter- She’s always been my introverted, quiet child When she was in the 5th grade she experienced separation anxiety as her brother whom she had gone to school with her whole life, was now in middle school and she was riding on the bus alone to school and didn’t have him there. This anxiety showed itself in her math class. Whenever she couldn’t get the problem right, she’d burst in to tears. The tears were so over the top that we knew math couldn’t just be what’s bothering her. One night, I took her in her bedroom and laid with her on her bed. I asked her to close her eyes and we did an exercise where she reenacted the anxiety in her math class and immediately we replaced a happy, new experience in its’ place and then we anchored that new experience so every time she felt anxious in class all she had to do was tap into that anchored experience. She never again cried in math class again, but she also started growing out of her introverted shell, started smiling more and today is popular with her friends, does sports, and is super influential as well. She inspired me to “change” as well and accept myself completely.
6. Master Chief Miller- My JROTC instructor in the 10th grade. He always believed in me and told me that I was smart and that I could do and be anything I wanted. I got pregnant while I was in high school and my parents took my out of that school. I kept in contact with him via phone and later email. When I was 31, I joined a multilevel company and earned the use of a company car. The next day after I picked up my car, I drove to my old high school and showed Master Chief my car… My accomplishment. He was so happy. He gave me a big hug and before I left we made plans for me to come back and speak to the JROTC classes. I did that for a couple of years and found that I REALLY LOVED motivating and inspiring others on different platforms. Master Chief not only believed in me when I was a kid but he set the stage for me as an adult to develop a new dream and launch it!
7. Gary Vaynerchuk- You need to Goole this guy. End of story. In 2008, I stumbled across this guy’s video blog. In it he was promoting wine, his own business. He did everything from wine parings with street food to crazy stuff like eating a piece of meat when he dropped it on the sidewalk on the streets of NY. LOL Right on camera. The thing that got me about him was all the cursing he was doing and the thousands of likes and comments he would get on his videos. He was being himself, completely transparent and people loved him. I decided to start a youtube channel, a blog, a Faeebook Fan page <– That’s what LIKE pages were called at the beginning and start being myself to build my brand. I wanted to connect with people and I did! When Gary came to Jacksonvile, FL for an event, I bought a ticket and sat in the 1st row to absorb everything he was saying. Gary is the number one reason why I launched myself in the public eye, on social media.
8. I’M GONNA HAVE TO COME BACK AND ADD TO THIS! I’M SURE I HAVE TEN PEOPLE BUT IN THE SPIRIT OF POSTING THIS BLOG ONTIME, I WILL COME BACK AND ADD TO IT.
I’M NOT PERFECT! IT’S OK!