The smoke and mirrors of Facebook and social media are just that. Smoke and mirrors.
Yesterday, I was having a conversation with a girlfriend about relationships and how social media affects them. Without making this blog post too long, I’ll share this.
Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, Google + and the others allow us to have inboxes. Inboxes where all sorts of attention or messages may come in. And while none of those may not even be important, they make us feel important. They stretch our attention thin and we “feel” productive because we are interacting and “people” are clicking like on our posts. Someone, gets the conversation going, we add to it by “liking” it or even adding our two cents. And for what? Facebook and other social media give men and women the FALSE impression that they have choices or options of the opposite sex when in reality those situations where we “meet” someone through social media, have the opportunity to interact in real life, and then develop a relationship that creates true friendship are few and far in between.
If you take a real look at your friend’s list on Facebook, you haven’t seen most of them in decades and very few are people you actually see regularly. So even though, you think that social media is helping us “build relationships” and “bringing us closer”, it’s actually doing the opposite. As we add more people to our friend’s list, we are growing farther and farther apart, as we have so many connections but know so little about them.
Is that what we want? Do we really want to spend hours and years building large networks of shallow and superficial connections at the expense of deepening our REAL romantic relationships or friendships which we can truly rely on?